The rules are still so strict that homosexual couples are not yet entitled to have a child together. They often travel abroad to fulfill their desire to have children. It is no longer necessary, according to a tour of the Monitor Research Program.
MC Kinderwens in Leiderdorp and Nij Geertgen in Elsendorp start in 2019 with homosexual couple surrogacy. Several clinics are still considering whether they will offer IVF surrogate for gay couples.
Dennis had to go to Canada with her partner Lody. Dennis: "Our relationship has been dominated by our children's wishes in five years and in the end we managed to become a dad with great help from others, a popular campaign and a lot of patience."
More people have the same problem. Yesterday he spoke to "More than desired", a platform for gay and lesbian with a child's wish. "There were 150 people in the room, all of whom were interested in children, and it would be so much easier and finer than this process in the Netherlands."
The NVOG working group took a position two years ago to make IVF surrogate under strict conditions possible for homosexual future parents.
"Every year we see dozens of male couples turn to doctors with this request, but so far it is not possible in the Netherlands and men to go abroad," says gynecologist Annemiek Nap on behalf of the profession.
Clinics are particularly reluctant to the psychological and legal care that accompanies the process. Doctors wonder if the intended parents, surrogate mother and child are legally protected if something goes wrong during or after treatment.
For example, a surrogate mother can regret and no longer want to give up the child. From a legal point of view, this is possible because she is born the child and is therefore modern for Dutch law.
Two years ago, the State Committee recommended re-evaluation parenting to include a specific system of surrogacy in Dutch law. This is to limit the risks to all concerned.
One of the recommendations is to better guarantee the rights of future parents and children. A surrogate mother who regrets has for six weeks to submit a request to resolve the transfer agreement through the court. She must have a good argument for that. It's a difficult problem that politicians have not yet decided.
No parent authority
Skye was born in August last year. That same year she was hospitalized with an RS virus, an infection in the lungs. "Our operator had legal parenting at that time, so we did not stay at the hospital at Skye." After birth, the couple went a long way to arrange shelter for Skye.
"It's nice that gay couples in clinics can make parents easier, but legislation must also be adapted," says Dennis. "For example, if you have a surrogate mother or a carrier yourself, the egg cell can not be found by the surrogate body itself, but you can not make a general appeal, which is punishable."